Ask Questions Before Vocalizing Opinions

As senior engineers we often expected to share our opinions — either because someone asks us to, or because we feel strongly about a subject. But when it’s the latter, our opinions can come off as absolute and that’s rarely a good thing.

There’s a simple, yet effective fix: ask questions instead of stating opinions.

At work, we deal with incomplete information all the time and jumping to conclusions too early can lead to mistakes. Good questions uncover hidden details and help us understand the problem better.

Questions also can help you influence others without leaving them with a bitter aftertaste. People tend to get defensive when faced with direct opposition but a well-placed question, though, can make them think, and maybe even shift their perspective.

Of course, you can’t just ask questions all the time. After all — you are a senior engineer. You should have strong opinions and confidence to voice them. Strong opinions move organizations forward. But only when they are grounded in a clear and well-informed perspective can they truly guide your org in the right direction.

So, hear people out. Genuinely try to understand how they got to their conclusions. And if you are not sure about something — ask questions. Only then vocalise your opinions.